Orgasm comes in four stages: excitement, plateau, climax and recovery and whilst many women wish to experience the tantalising feeling of euphoria that orgasm can bring, not all women are the same and despite what we’re told by grossly misleading movies and media, not every single female orgasmic experience is going to be achieved by penetration alone.
Firstly the female orgasm is nothing to be ashamed of; it is a natural function and important for your body, your mind, your energy and your spirit. It is no less important than the male orgasm and you are capable of achieving orgasm, but if you are ashamed of orgasms or think they don’t matter, it’s time to let go of your embarrassment and get empowered! After all female orgasm offers many benefits for the mind, body and spirit.
1. Mind – Body Connection
Orgasms are important on a spiritual level because they create a connection between mind and body. During orgasm you lose your ego and this offers an important opportunity to connect with your true being, not how you see yourself in a detached or isolated way.
2. The Mind – Orgasms are good for your mental well-being
Orgasms are important for your mental health because they put you in a state of complete relaxation and allow you to let go. Orgasms fill the body with ecstasy hormones like serotonin and dopamine and the love and bonding hormone, oxytocin. All these happy hormones are good for your mental health and bonding between a couple, when combined with sacred sexuality practices such as those taught on Tantric Journeys Couple Courses.
If you employ tantric practices then the sexual energy generated can be harnessed and used to revitalise the whole body. Orgasms are important energetically because the state of orgasm is one that is very high energetically—the high level of sexual energy is what gives you a ‘glow ‘ after love-making. It comes from being charged energetically but this energy can be captured and utilised to make you vibrant and attractive and magnetise people and positive experiences to you.
If you have difficulty experiencing orgasms, don’t worry—you aren’t alone.
One-third of women have never experienced orgasm and there is a lot of self help that can be undertaken. Mal Weeraratne has treated thousands of women and couples and runs workshops for couples as well as offering one-to-one treatment and tuition. His unique emotional release technique can help to remove negative emotions at cellular level and one of the benefits of this technique is being able to achieve orgasm, although this is not the focus and aim. His book ‘Emotional Detox through Bodywork’ also gives some great insights and self help guidance into the elusive female orgasm.