The words, ‘female ejaculation’ are ones that are bound to cause a snigger, a gasp or an awkward silence to erupt if mentioned at the dinner table. The thing is female ejaculation is one of those subjects that is hardly talked about and when it is, it seems to create an atmosphere of hysteria, awkwardness, curiosity and intrigue.
For many men and women the idea of a woman being able to ejaculate is a subject that is often met with a degree of disbelief, but it is one that has intrigued people for centuries, indeed ancient texts from Asia described the mysterious and magical fluid that was thought to possess health-giving properties.
It’s a strange topic to tackle because unlike male ejaculation which is a given; female ejaculation seems to be a taboo subject. What I have never understood is the suspicion that the subject of female ejaculation is met with; it is almost classified as a myth. But female ejaculation is a perfectly natural bodily function that remains an enigma.
Sometimes, female ejaculation is referred to as squirting or gushing; unfortunately these terms are largely associated with the porn industry and conjure up very different ideas to what I am discussing. Interestingly, squirting is actually banned in the porn industry as it is considered by law that it is indecent on the grounds of female ejaculation fluid being misconstrued as urine. Whilst in tantra it is referred to as kalas, which indicates the esoteric nature and its connection with the cycles of the Moon, but my favourite term for female ejaculation is amrita, which means divine nectar.
So, during ejaculation how much fluid is released?
According to the parameters developed by the World Health Organisation, the average volume of semen produced during male ejaculation is 3.7 ml, which is roughly three-quarters of a teaspoonful; however, the volume of fluid produced during female ejaculation is more varied, and I couldn’t find any definitive answers, but it seems that it ranges from barely enough to fill a thimble to being enough to saturate the bed. Perhaps this is what has given rise to the false theory that female ejaculation being nothing more than stress-incontinence which brings me to the question of what happens physiologically.
Female ejaculation is a physiological phenomenon, an involuntary action that generally accompanies orgasm that is completely different from urination. It is associated with the release of what in a man is termed prostatic enzymes, such as PSA. A recent study has confirmed that amrita and urine are chemically different; putting to rest negative theories of women simply passing urine during sexual intercourse. Samuel Salama, a gynecologist at the Parly II private hospital in Le Chesnay, France, and his colleagues recruited seven women who reported being able to consistently ejaculate and produce large amounts of liquid during orgasm to take part in their study called “Nature and Origin of ‘Squirting’ in Female Sexuality“. The study revealed that five out of the seven women had a small amount of prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) present in their ejaculatory fluid. PSA, produced in men by the prostate gland, is more commonly associated with male ejaculate, where its presence helps sperm to swim. However, Salama explained that in women PSA is produced mainly by the Skene glands. Mal Weeraratne, a Tantra Practioner with over twenty years experience of helping women achieve orgasm and ejaculation explains that the two do not have to go hand in hand and that in his experience of treating over 3,000 women, female ejaculation often comes first when he performs a yoni massage.
What does Tantra say?
In accordance with the teachings of Tantra the ability to produce kalas is a woman’s step into paranormal powers. It is the physical manifestation of sexual energy and for a woman it is revitalising for both mind and body.
Women ejaculate through their urethra, the same place we urinate from and not through the vagina, so one of the biggest challenges for a woman is letting go. Because when the tension builds as female ejaculation becomes close it can feel as though you need to wee and a fear can then be formed of making a mess, being embarrassed etc., which ultimately prevents ejaculation from being possible.
Another challenge for a woman is to be totally relaxed and present in the moment. For a woman totally relaxing and allowing yourself to just receive pleasure without giving can be a major challenge; after all women rarely just receive. Indeed when women begin a tantric journey they are often surprised by how disconnected they are from receiving pleasure.
Amrita can often be yielded from the prolonged and firm stimulation of the urethral sponge, around the female area of A and G spots. The female G-spot is located about 6-10 cm inside the vagina on the frontal wall. The A-spot is located a little higher, just in front of the cervix, also on the frontal wall. In order to achieve the release of amrita the stimulation has to be rhythmical and thrusting and often stimulation from partner’s fingers is the best way to achieve the consistency of stimulation.
So for anyone who wants to explore female ejaculation the best advice is to allow yourself time; get the concept to sit comfortably in your mind; practice with a jade (yoni) egg to strengthen your pelvic muscles as being able to push out with the vaginal muscles is really useful when it comes to learning to ejaculate and most of all just enjoy the process of exploring this little understood natural part of female sexuality.