Before we go any further, let’s just clarify that yoni is Sanskrit for vagina and translates as ‘sacred space’. Yoni massage is now becoming more recognised in the West and can be performed to facilitate having a better sex life, relieve any stress and tension that the vagina is storing, release negative emotions and many other conditions.
A yoni massage is not seedy or even sexual, it is a beautiful healing ceremony. It is a wonderful experience for a woman and whilst orgasm may occur as a result of a yoni massage, it should not be the aim. Instead the aim of a yoni massage should be to allow the woman to relax and be transported into a blissful state of relaxation, where she can accept pleasure without expectation of giving.
You should start by preparing the space – making the space a clean and inviting.
Next sit your partner down opposite you. Look into her eyes and tell her something that is amazing about her or something you love about her.
Now spend a few minutes simply looking into her eyes. Eye-gazing is a very simple, yet deeply powerful exercise.
Next invite her to lie down and spend at least 20 minutes relaxing her body. Use gentle, soft, flowing massage strokes and be fully attentive, with your aim being to honour her body.
Once her body is fully relaxed, ask her permission to begin to massage her yoni.
Here is a list of tips and strokes that you will find useful, you may also want to follow your intuition and respond to any pleasure signals your partner gives.
Tips: use unscented and natural massage oil, take your time, keep asking for feedback and remember to relax and breath.