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December 4th, 2017
Post by Jade Lotus
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Sexual blockages as a result of trauma are increasingly common, life altering disorders which conventional medicine can do very little to address. Women are told they are anorgasmic, with western doctors dismissing their potential to experience this kind of sexual ecstacy because they do not understand it. I have experienced the devastating reality of sexual blockage too and understand how badly humans need to be able to access their sexual potential.

People are turning to alternative methods that understand their sexual nature and energy, and addresses their need for sexual experience. Tantric masage is arguably the forerunner in this. I am currently treating 2 NHS doctors for sexual problems, these are medical experts who realise the hole that western medicine has in this area.

Men and women react differently when sexually blocked. Women become anorgasmic and the yoni can shut down (vaginismus). Men on the other hand ejaculate prematurely, or find it difficult to maintain an erection.  Of course their can be physical factors in this, that the blood flow and lymph and blocked keeping energy from entering the area. However there is almost always a psychological/spiritual aspect to this too. Physical blockages tend to manifest around energetic blockages.

One of the main factors in sexual dysfunction relates to what western medicine refers to as the Autonomic Nervous System. The ANS keeps the body calm but is always prepared for danger, and can quickly convert the body into ‘flight or fight’ mode of adrenaline production in order to keep us safe from harm. This is called the Sympathetic mode. A problem arises when we are stuck in Sympathetic ANS mode constantly producing adrenaline. For women, this results in inability to feel pleasure and orgasmic inhibition, in men this results in premature ejaculation and impotence. The body will not waste time on sex in times of danger. It is no wonder many of my clients and bankers, consultants and business owners who cannot find time to relax.

Looked at from an Eastern perspective, sexual blockages relate to the second chakra, but also relate to the Heart.  As children our energy is constantly circulating, but when we start to accumulate traumas in the body, the flow starts to weaken and become blocked. Many traumas are stored in the sexual area and desensitize the body.  In it’s natural state a body should be pleasurable all over and orgasmic states accessible from gentle touch all over the body. But we are desensitized, and seeking more stimulation to get sensation, further damage delicate nerve endings. It is possible to release these blockages, emotions and memories, through both meditation and tantric massage.

We live in a world that is externalized. We are always looking out, ignoring our own inner universe. Most people spend hours staring into the Television screen but are oblivious to the world they can experience within. A big part of experiencing sexual pleasure is about stepping back into our bodies, truly inhabiting ourselves. We can shut our eyes and look into our bodies, go over every area and connect with the sensation, see what is there. When we are in sexual experiences we need to turn our attention within, focus onto the sensations within our body that radiate out from the sexual area. This is our energy moving, an incredible experience to connect with.

A big part of healing sexual blockages is to learn to love ourselves, nurture ourselves, and give ourselves respect. Whilst there are obvious forms of sexual abuse such as rape, I see several clients who are concerned about the influence watching pornography has had on them and feeling it affects them sexually. From an eastern perspective, during sexual experience it is important to turn the gaze inwards and experience the energy. Porn creates a habit of externalizing and also of having sexual experience without intimacy. This can be very attractive to a person who is blocked from intimacy, but the filling is ultimately always unfulfilling.

My experience with sexual blockage lead me to the realization that part of healing is about creating a pure relationship with our sexual nature and ourselves as sexual and spiritual beings. This is about bringing self love and acceptance into our reality. The body is so sensitive and there are many involuntary muscles that react to thoughts and effect the bodies functioning. This is why the Taoists focus so much on the power of a smile and of thoughts, and have built up the practices of Inner and Sexual Alchemy to keep the involuntary muscle functions healthy.

When we are rough with ourselves, whether this be inability to acknowledge our feelings and have compassion for ourselves, or an a physical level, rough sex and masturbation and the use of vibrators, we traumatise ourselves and cause our nerves to shut down and our bodies to go numb. This includes having sexual encounters with people we don’t know and are not connected with. People with sexual blockages are often also blocked to intimacy so there can be the tendency to have sex with many partners and strangers to try to clear the blockage. What will actually help to heal the blockage is connecting with someone, taking time to get to know them and getting your energies vibrating at the same frequency before you get sexually involved. Experiencing love and intimacy before experiencing sexual exchange together is the basis of a healthy relationship.Love and gentleness along with self awareness will start to open up our bodies to healthy sexual functioning.

Clearing sexual blockages is a process of reopening the energy flow, clearing out emotional toxins and traumas, and reconnecting with our bodies. We live in a society where our emotional well being is often ignored and this has lead to a collective shut down of the healthy functioning of the Heart. Reconnecting with our Hearts and our self love is fundamental. When we begin to cultivate and experience self love, our bodies feel loved and start to behave as they should. Then we open ourselves to be loved by others.

I came into Tantra and Sexual Alchemy practice from a background of being extremely sexually shut down. I was abused as a child and teenager and was completely anorgasmic as my sexual chakra was blocked. I went through experiencing the confusion of sexual blockage, the shame and embarrassment of not feeling a whole woman. I suffered with anxiety and insomnia and felt lost in terms of my direction in life. My body was stiff and painful, something I had to manage to live with rather than enjoy. Then I discovered Sexual Alchemy and my life changed. Through practicing the meditations I started to feel my energy awakening and moving up my body in pleasurable electrical waves. Before long I went from being anorgasmic to full body multi orgasmic. My pains went away, my body became fluid, and more importantly I began to manifest in my life and finally found the path where my destiny lay. I realised, sex is more than just pleasure. Its the essence of life.

We live in a society that is arguably sex obsessed, but in a way that disconnects people from the true experience of sexual and spiritual connection. Anyone who has been or is sexually blocked knows that it’s not just a block of pleasure, it effects every part of your life. I truly believe that if women become sexually empowered, and by this I mean learn to utilise and transform their sexual energy and move it up their body as practiced by the ancients of India and China, most of the social ills of today will simply melt away. The sexual and the spiritual are inseparable. Sexual ecstacy is the pathway to spiritual connection and every religion recognises this. I have experienced this in my own life and am passionate about sharing it with all beings.

 

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