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Tantric Journey What is True Beauty?

When we think about beautiful women it is easy to start thinking about those women with ‘flawless’ faces and bodies that we see plastered across the front pages of magazines and in television adverts. But beauty is not about perfection. Instead beauty comes from a deep inner happiness.

My thoughts are that a woman can spend thousands on Botox, designer dresses and wear the whole of the Dior cosmetics counter, but if she is not comfortable in her body and has a negative attitude to life she will not appear radiant.  As a landmark Birthday approaches I can say that when I look back at some modeling shots that I did in my teens and early twenties, that there is nothing quite like the first flushes of youth, but today I know I am much more at ease being me and that I am confident in the belief that every line and imperfection is part of who I am. I am a happy person and if I have laughter lines they are part of what makes me the person I am today.

A Positive Attitude

A positive attitude is what counts and what makes a woman beautiful at any age.  As Coco Chanel said, ‘’after 40 nobody is young, but one can be irresistible at any age’’.  Though, I do accept that positive thinking is not as easy to master as it sounds. Our life is made of habits and being negative can be a pretty addictive one. It can be easy to adopt negative thoughts and feelings without even realising. Indeed the importance of an optimistic attitude is often overlooked. Buddha once said: “We are what we think,” and if you bear this in mind when considering negative and positive thinking you suddenly start to place great importance on the choice of positive thinking and adoption of an optimistic attitude.

Tao Gardens

When I visited the Tao Garden Resort last year I listened to a talk by Mal Weeraratne and his assistant Kate Ellena who explained that, ‘’ It is essential to fill your mind and body with positive thoughts and feelings if you are to live a healthy, happy and abundant life. Throughout our existence we are subject to adding layer after layer of negative believes conditioning, and emotions as a result of physical and psychological abuse.   The body harbors these negative emotions and traumas as a result of not dealing and releasing them as and when they occur, this leads to blockages in our body’s energy system that results in body armoring. In the jungle, animals are subject to more traumas every moment, but animals are not subject to blockages and remain healthy with no depression, obesity, cancer etc. Dr. Peter Levine has conducted a thirty five-year study of stress and trauma and suggests that humans can learn a lot about processing and handling trauma by analysing the animal kingdom.’’ He continued to explain that in his work called: Tantric Journey’, ‘’ I help the individual to clear these blockages and subsequently improve the quality of their life and free themselves of symptoms and discomfort; find their direction through tuning themselves to what their inner needs are and find freedom from negative patterns through clearance and balance.’’

Self Criticism

I think that women in particular are very good at being self-critical, but men are by no means immune to putting themselves down. How often have you stood in front of a mirror and found yourself criticising the reflection that stares back at you?  I certainly know I’ve been guilty of it.  Negative body comments are all too common in our media obsessed society:

‘I hate my thighs.’
‘My bum is too big’
‘My breasts are too big or too small’
‘My hair is too thick, too thin, the wrong colour, texture etc., ‘
‘My face is filled with wrinkles’
‘I look old.’
‘I am ugly.’
‘My legs are too short’
‘I am fat.’
‘I am shapeless’
‘My legs are lacking tone’
‘My legs are full of cellulite.’
‘My lips are too small or too big’’
‘My eyes are ‘ I look tired, old, haggard, etc., etc.

You may recognise yourself as having made some of these statements or similar ones in the past, or perhaps, you stand in front of the mirror and see the story of your life on display. It may go something like this – my flabby belly is the reason I am still single or in an unhappy relationship, the dark circles under my eyes show that I am overworked and underpaid, my unkempt hair is a reflection of the lack of time I get for me, my large thighs reveal that I was unloved as a child and found comfort in food, my un-toned body shows how little time or care my body receives,  the wrinkles on my face are really lines of anger and frustration, my double chin tells that I suppress my feelings instead of expressing them.

Energetically, self sabotage is a very consumptive, harsh, abusive, attacking energy that belittles one’s spirit and in turn creates a vacuum that attracts other people to treat you the same way.  And so, the cycle of rejecting and negating continues.  For some this cycle becomes totally out of control, and the relationship to food and the body gets so distorted that bulimia, anorexia and body dysmorphia develops, for others socialising or even venturing out to work becomes a challenge.  Negative attracts negative and so negative relationships and situations are drawn to you like a magnet.  It is very important to realise that, your inner beauty must become your outer radiance.

Clear Negativity

I think that before any of us think of going under the surgeons’ scalpel or injecting botox we should clear the toxic thoughts and negative emotions. The best lesson any individual is to appreciate and recognise their own individual beauty and to start being kind to themselves and their body image.

In order to achieve this, the toxic thoughts and negative emotions must go!  Negative body talk equals the paralysis of your radiance and stops you from seeing or connecting with your inner beauty.  Under the strain of criticisms, insecurities and destructive thoughts you lose your sparkle, and you can feel trapped in a negative cycle.

So, this February give yourself the best self love gift ever, weed out all the negative beliefs you have about yourself, including the one’s subconsciously given to you by your family, friends, partners and the media.  Then tend to your unique beauty, supporting it to blossoming with kind words and let your inner beauty and confidence radiate.

-Seren-

 

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